Showing posts with label Family. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Family. Show all posts

Ontario Community Resource: 211 Day


As a continued community panel member with 211, I wanted to share some information about the service and how this crucial resource is so important to our communities especially when so many of us are dealing with challenging life circumstances! #211Day #HelpStartsHere

So what is 211?

211 connects people to over 60,000 government and community programs such as:

🧠 Mental health services, 🤝 Community programs, 🏠Housing🥫 Food banks and so much more!

👉211 is a free, confidential service available to all Ontarians. 

👉It is accessible 24/7 in more than 150 languages by phone, text, chat, and web.

If you or someone you know needs help, remember those 3 key numbers 2-1-1.


💜Find the help you need: 211 Website


Reflections of 2025

As the countdown begins, I made a little collage to reflect back on this year. Intentionally, I took flight more often from social media and begun to cultivate a new existence outside of screens.

It wasn't about the gigantic steps in 2025...it was teensy tiny ones with a lot of fumbling along the way.

The hats that I wore in work and play altered in unexpected ways, but I remained what many still call me ("a muse").

My little support nook was of course an extra heartbeat to keep momentum when life got really rough (thank you)and I hope our connections continue to grow in 2026.


One Step At A Time: March Movie Reviews



Hi everyone! I'm back with some more movie reviews for you to enjoy. 


A Man Called Otto directed by Marc Forster is an uplifting story of hope and renewal of life.  Tom Hanks plays Otto, a rather grouchy man, who is ready to leave everything behind after losing his wife.  With many failed attempts at taking his own life, there feels like a reason he is still here.  

The movie is touching and we see over the course of the movie how his connection with other neighbours change his life as well as theirs in subtle yet profound ways. Otto is not a man to sugar coat anything,  he’ll tell you straight up like it is, whether you want to listen to his ramblings or not. His blunt honesty is not always welcome, but in every situation, when Otto is confronted with doing the right thing, he does.  

Another highlight is the blooming friendship with new neighbour, Marisol, played by Mariana Treviño, who sees the genuine heart underneath all the grumpiness. She’s a wonderful character in the movie and brings out all the joy that Otto has buried down deep inside and shows him there is still so much beauty in life that his wife would not want him to miss out on. 

💜A Man Called Otto Trailer

I am hoping to see the Swedish film release, A Man Called Ove.

                                            

The Whale directed by Darren Aronofsky is a heartbreaking story to watch because we have all known someone in our lives that no matter what we do, we cannot reach them. Maybe they are struggling with addiction, mental health, or something that they still cannot even come to terms with.  Feeling an obligation to help the broken, can also sometimes break us.  It’s hard to tread these waters and stay afloat.

As the saying goes, don’t judge a book by its cover, however, we mostly do, especially in extreme circumstances. Visually, we see Charlie (played by Brendan Fraser), a 600 lbs+ man, stuffing his face with fried chicken and we immediately think, hell, why can’t he just stop eating? He’s disgusting and made a choice, why have an ounce sympathy for him? Before critical judgement, let's pause. Touching on themes of grief, severe depression, hidden identity, isolation, estranged family, a broken healthcare system, and other crucial pieces of Charlie’s crumbling life, we can see that it’s far more than just about putting down the greasy drumsticks.  

His best friend, Liz, played by Hong Chau, gives an incredible performance as well. We get to see the heartache she is battling from her own losses and her fierce loyalty to try and keep others from messing with Charlie’s psyche, specifically a missionary who wants to “save him.” Taking on the caregiver role of keeping Charlie alive (she is a nurse) despite his clear wishes of not getting any outside medical help, as all the money he has needs to be given to his daughter, sadly enables his behaviours.  She is such a strong character though and it is true that in order to build resiliency, it comes with a lot of breakdowns.  

As we watch Charlie further deteriorate, his desperation to reconnect with his daughter shows his vulnerability and in some ways selflessness of giving up everything to make sure she is happy in life. There are a lot of complex emotions to deal with. The final scene has a poetic closure and offers symbolic interpretations.

It’s never too late to say you’re sorry.

💜While receiving standing ovations at the premiere of The Whale, this movie has had its share of backlash too, which you may agree or disagree with.  However, in my opinion, after being out of the spotlight for so long, Brendan Fraser's performance here still definitely deserved to be taking home Best Actor at the 2023 Oscars.

💜The Whale Trailer


Missing is written and directed by Nicholas D. Johnson and Will Merrick.

The motherly frustrations of dealing with teenage woes is not uncommon. Unanswered phone calls and text messages coupled with rebellious shenanigans with friends are par for the course, but to certain degrees. 

So what happens when it is the parental figure who doesn’t answer their phone, and just disappears? We are taken on a wild technological ride when daughter, June (Storm Reid) takes it upon herself to go into virtual sleuth mode to find  her mom Grace Allen, (Nia Long) who vanishes during a vacation in Colombia with her boyfriend, Kevin (Ken Leung).                              

The movie is full of excitement and offers a lot of thrilling moments, similar to the movie that I reviewed; Searching.  However, what is termed as a "spiritual sequel", there is more complexity to the parental/teenage relationship, and the intensity really grows with more plot twists that shifts audience sympathies back and forth like a pendulum.

An interesting part of the movie is June hiring a local Columbian, Javi, played by Joaquim de Almeida to help her find evidence and locate her mom. His technology skills are not quite on par with June’s, . However, after getting the run-around from authorities, June is running out of options and as much as she strives to be independent, she needs a shoulder to lean on. In this case, it’s a virtual one that the director is able to translate into a lot of warmth on screen.  We love Javi for being the ideal father-like figure that June wishes she still had in her life and the fact that Javi might not be disappearing from June’s life any time soon. 

While technology has a way of sometimes pulling us apart, it is also a way to bring us back together. It brings me back to the days of Mr. Rogers when he said “always look for the helpers.”

💜Missing Trailer


We Have A Ghost, directed by Christopher Landon is a film that really was surprising to watch as there were so many things wrong with the movie, yet somehow it ended up being a favourite here to write about.

During the first half, we're seeing the Presley family move into a creepy, dilapidated home that probably no one would really realistically buy. Alas, they purchase the home, hoping to have a new start. 

Jahi Di'Allo Winston as Kevin, plays the detached misunderstood teenager who we immediately expect will befriend the ghost - Ernest (played by David Harbour) found living up in the attic.  Soon Ernest is captured on video, uploaded to Youtube by Kevin's father, and of course, it goes viral. The film spirals a bit out of control here adding in a wacky Jennifer Coolidge who plays a psychic, known as The West Bay Medium. 

After a lot of comedic moments that honestly felt awkward and misplaced with another attempt of be relevant of current trends (cue needless Kardashian references) the story takes a very unexpected turn where we become so involved in Kevin and Ernest's friendship.  

David is at his absolute best, giving us such an endearing physical performance without speaking throughout the film, (technically, he did in fact speak 1 word, but I will not spoil that). I became quite invested in the mystery as to why Ernest was stuck in the attic, as did my husband. I loved the interaction between Kevin and Ernest almost immediately. There ends up being so many deeper layers to the story, which I wish the tone of the movie went into sooner, instead of the comedic flops of chaos trailing on for so long.  

I never thought that I'd shed tears for a ghost, but if there is any reason to give this movie a chance, it's for David Harbour's performance.

💜We Have A Ghost Trailer

A Loud Roar: RRR Movie Review


RRR (Rise, Roar, Revolt) is a deeply moving Telugu film, directed by S. S. Rajamouli and is exactly what the world of cinema needed.  This is coined as a historical fantasy based loosely on two real-life Indian rebels, Alluri Sitarama Raju (played by Ram Charan Teja) and Komaram Bheem (played by N.T. Rama Rao Jr.)

The story revolves around two men who befriend each other under British rule in India during the 1920’s not realizing until much later that they have been fighting on opposite sides.  There are so many layers to this film which shake up thought-provoking ideas, including cultural loyalty and family legacy, and although you might groan at the thought of sitting through a 3 hour movie, personally, I didn’t feel any part dragging along or wish it was shorter.  

Whether you want to call them freedom fighters, revolutionaries, or something different, they are the heart of the film and we get to be enthralled separately and collectively with Raju and Bheem. They are two of the most complex and passionate characters, finding strength in themselves and each other. We also get to experience life through their eyes growing up and into adulthood as the war rages on.  As well, an epic “bromance” evolves and will likely set the bar high to any future cinematic friendships.

I couldn’t take my eyes of the screen as there are so many scenes of just pure awe with the stunt work and cinematic joy that the movie brought. I don’t want to spoil much but take my word that although we do have to suspend disbelief (throwing tigers or picking up a motorcycle to toss it like it weighs less than a feather, is not likely to happen – right?)  the action is on a scale of unlike anything I’ve seen in a very long time. Due note that there are some moments that are pretty brutally violent.

The musical choices flow so well and give even more context and emotion to the film. It is also interesting to follow, the English translation of the song lyrics and how they relate it to the present situations they were in. In true Bollywood inspired-style, we do get an uplifting and powerful dance number called Naatu Naatu, composed by music director MM Keeravaani and written by Kala Bhairava and Rahul Sipligunj. It is choreographed to perfection and worthy of the award for “Best Original Song – Motion Picture" at the Golden Globes.


💜RRR Trailer


Holiday Down Under: A Sunburnt Christmas Movie Review



Hello readers!

I'm ready to share another holiday film with you that is a little naughty and nice. So pack your bags, check your virtual passport twice, and let's go to Australia!  

Sunburnt Christmas is directed by Christiaan Van Vuuren and tells the story of a widowed mother, Fiona, (Ling Cooper Tang) who is struggling to keep the family farm afloat due to horrendous drought conditions and becomes obsessed with fixing their broken windmill. 

We also have the kids, big sister Hazel (Tatiana Goode), who is in charge of everything and is trying to hold the pieces of what is left of the family together, hypochondriac yet also grief-stricken brother, Tom (Eaden McGuinness) who fears everything will kill him, and younger sister, Daisy (Lena Nankivell) who is a bit of a reckless spirit and yet a dreamer too.  She holds onto her dad’s old shotgun and goes around shooting passing clouds, with the hopes to make it rain.  The innocence through a child’s eyes has a lot of moments here to cherish.

While foreclosure on their home is near, a criminal on the loose dressed as Santa Claus named Daryl Dunn, (Daniel Henshall) crashes into their property, changing all of their lives forever. 

There is something wonderful about watching Australian films.  I was really smitten with the performance from Daniel Henshall.  He’s such a likeable character and you can really see the connections he makes with the kids that really bring new perspectives to the story. The plot may seem pretty standard, but there is a twist in this one that you might not see coming.  I also loved the wacky humour with the emotional punches woven into many of the scenes.

There is a lot of heart down under with this holiday film, so you’re bound to have a ripper of a time with it!


💜A Sunburnt Christmas Trailer

Feels Like Holmes To Me: Enola Holmes 2 Movie Review

 


If you were a fan of the first Enola Holmes, then you'll probably love Enola Holmes 2, directed by Harry Bradbeer, with writers Jack Thorne and Nancy Springer. 

Enola, played by Millie Bobby Brown (known to so many of us as Eleven from the series, Stranger Things) is back and instead of being just in her brother Sherlock’s shadow, she’s a detective-for-hire now and is on the case of a missing girl whose disappearance is not just a coincidence, but a darker underpinning of what is actually happening right beneath her fingertips.  There is a mystery to be solved!

Although I do love Henry Cavill who plays older brother, Sherlock and of course Helena Bonham Carter as the mother, who is always an eccentric wisdom-filled presence on screen, Millie Bobby Brown leads without question as Enola Holmes. She’s a strong female character with intelligence and her quick-wit is always delightful

Similar to the first one, there were many enjoyable characters and a lot of thought put into the small details of the film.  I also loved all the costumes with the Victorian era flair. Really entertaining overall, and who doesn’t love a good mystery with some twists?  I cannot wait for a third installment. 

Enola Holmes wins my heart all over again.

Listen With Your Heart: Coda Movie Review

I'll love you forever. 
Image from IMBD


Coda is a remake of the 2014 film, La Famille Bélier.  It is a heart-warming coming-of-age story about a girl named Ruby, played by the impressive, Emilia Jones, who is part of a deaf family (CODA - child of deaf adults/ also a musical term)  yet was born with the ability to hear.

Like most families, there is a certain level of chaos to expect, but for Ruby, she is the glue that is holding her family together. School, working the family fishing business to keep it afloat, and being readily available as the family translator is exhausting. Emotions are hanging by a thread trying to juggle it all.

Ruby's one salvation is taking a leap and joining the choir at school and finding her voice with help of choirmaster, Eugenio Derbez. Her beautiful hidden voice wants to be heard, but she's afraid - afraid of not being good enough. Not only that, but add on dealing with some new unexpected feelings being paired for a duet with classmate Miles, played by Ferdia Walsh-Peelo  (I literally screamed out SING STREET! when I saw him on screen).  Ruby's love of music and the possibility to soar to new heights going to a prestigious music school comes at a cost though that she's unsure she can sacrifice. 

Fair warning, Coda is surprisingly vulgar at times with its comedic flare which I think some may appreciate and others might be taken aback by. The whole idea of  knowing your parents are hot for each other and are still getting it on is kind of an uncomfortable feeling, but there is a hilarity in how it's presented in the film. The acting is terrific and although the predictability factor of the outcome of the movie is obvious, there is a deep empathy felt and a beauty of how the dynamics evolve with the characters, especially Marlee Matlin and Troy Kotsur, who play Ruby's parents, as well as brother, Leo, played by Daniel Durant. 

When you add in the soundtrack with songs by Joni Mitchell, Marvin Gaye, David Bowie and The Clash, it's a beautiful film that deserves applause that has paved the way for more films to be produced and represented in authentic ways that help us learn, grow and embrace who we are.

Some cool facts about Coda:

👉The director, Siân Heder intended on having the roles casted by those in the deaf community, which is pretty awesome and such a huge stride, and getting help with translating 40% of the script into ASL (American Sign Language).

👉Emilia trained for 8 months with a deaf coach who taught her ASL but also about deaf culture and the nuances. Eventually she was able to improvise on-set with her cast members.

Overall, I loved the movie and the message that shone through so brightly that I think we can all agree upon is  that there is nothing more powerful than to listen with your heart.


Have you seen Coda yet? Leave me your comments or connect with me through my contact form! I'd love to hear from you. 


💜Watch the trailer here: Coda Trailer

💜 Available on Apple Tv

The Giggle Mat Colouring Pages!


Photo by Alison Von B. 


🌈Have some fun with these colouring pages of all your favourite characters from The Giggle Mat
 
Your awesome adult can print them out for you!












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Nuvo Entertainment Presents: Science Magic

I really have no words as to what has been happening with COVID-19.

It's been a difficult time for everyone and pretty devastating for so many industries. It's even more challenging for those in the performing world.  All gigs are cancelled.... until when? Who knows. Our city here in Windsor, Ontario has been supporting one another and really coming together as a community. It's quite amazing to see and be part of.

The Internet has been a real blessing to connect with others and be able to still perform in some capacity.

Here are some awesome videos that were done by Nuvo Entertainment below to enjoy.

These ones are all science-related, so you can learn and have fun too!

Drop me a note and let me know how YOU are doing.

Please stay safe and healthy everyone.

Videos 1-5.







Wedding Photos

Just a glimpse of some favourite photos from the wedding by our photographer, Simon Wyn.


Father daughter moment

Family photo
 
Everyone loved posing with "Bernie"

Jump for your love 

My love, Bill.

Exercising & Recovery with VON Erie St. Clair Services

Many of you know what happened to my Dad 3 years ago. Life changed dramatically for all of us, but with the amazing on-going care of countless doctors and specialists here in Windsor, as well as the enormous outpouring love and support from our family, friends, and even the kindness of strangers, he beat the odds!

If you click on the link, you can hear some of my Dad's story and how VON Erie St. Clair has helped him in his recovery!


The VON SMART Program (Seniors Maintaining Active Roles Together) is a research and evidence based exercise and fall prevention program provided by the VON Erie St. Clair. SMART is designed for community members 55+ who, regardless of current levels of ability, wish to maintain or are deficit in one or more of the following areas: upper/lower body strength, balance and flexibility. The SMART program is ideal for individuals with barriers to traditional exercise groups due to health issues, mobility restrictions and/or chronic disease.  All of our programs are client-focused, and tailored to the needs of participants.  We include an educational component within our exercise classes detailing falls prevention strategies and interventions to help reduce fall risks. 

If you or someone you love is in need of care and support, contact VON in any of the following areas: Windsor-Essex, Chatham-Kent, Belle-River, Sarnia-Lambton, Pelee Island areas.


Please feel free to share.



*Video credit: Marvin Edward
Physiotherapy/Occupational Therapy Assistant
TEAM LEADER for SMART Exercise & Fall Prevention Program
(Seniors Maintaining Active Roles Together)
VON Canada
400 - 4520 Rhodes Dr.
Windsor, ON   N8W 5C2
Office: (519) 254-9301 Ext. 6240
Toll Free: 1-866-354-4866 Ext. 6240

Bright Lights Windsor 2017!

We had such a great night at Bright Lights Windsor!

The displays were so beautiful to look at, along with the thousands of lights that just lit up all of Jackson Park. 

It was the perfect event to have a family night out! My dad was pretty much in awe the whole time, so it is definitely a memory to cherish.



Here's some cool footage of Bill doing LED juggling!


Right now, as I am typing this, he is doing his LED poi juggling at Bright Lights Windsor.
The next date to catch him will be December 29th from 6:30-8:30 pm. 


Father's Day 2017

Well we had a really special Father's Day this year. Bill suggested that we take my Dad to see Elvis perform! Of course, not the real Elvis (he is deceased) although some people claim to have seen him in their toast, their morning coffee and various other places in the world. 

Anyhow, Elvis impersonators are in abundance, but not all make the cut for engaging a crowd or even having the vocal chops. Our friend Norm Ackland Jr. is multi-talented and pretty top notch in our books. We gathered up Dad, my Mom and brother, Michael, and all of us went to Lakeside Park to support Norm and spent the afternoon tapping away our blue suede shoes! 

A great shot captured by my Dad of Elvis (aka Norm) performing
   


Hilarious video footage I took of Bill and another audience member shakin' it! :)









Happy Holidays 2016


💜Happy Holidays everyone!💗

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Make sure to visit my blog again, as I will be posting my top 10 movies of 2016! 





2015 Holiday Musings.


It has certainly been a challenging year, to say the least. I am happy to say that my Dad is still with us and he is doing very well.  I intended to document a lot of my feelings throughout this ordeal, but you can understand the level of physical and mental exhaustion that I was faced with.  I could not shake the feelings swirling around in my mind.

I am grateful for the outpouring support and love that we received from family and friends, but also from people we rarely even knew. Strangers can be so oddly comforting.  I was also able to keep my faith alive in a situation that was so devastating and needed a miracle.

If you're just finding my blog now, my Dad fell critically ill with a rare encephalitis virus that ended up attacking his brain. Our lives got turned upside down so quickly that I felt maybe I was just stuck in a terrible nightmare. Nope, reality hit hard, but fortunately, with all the help that we received, my Dad survived.

My Dad, happy to be celebrating my 35th birthday at Casey's. 


As cliche as it sounds, life is short. If you haven't gone through some sort of devastating moment, you are lucky...or perhaps unlucky, since every experience teaches you something good or bad, heck, perhaps a mixture of both.  You really never know what is going to happen from one moment to the next. It's exhilarating and terrifying, all at the same time.

I try and make the most of each day. I am still battling my traumas, yet trying to survive and continue my journey of helping others. I'm not perfect. I make mistakes.  I continue to deal with disappointments and fleeting friendships. I used to be certain on so many things, but today, I am full of uncertainty, and I know that's ok.

I do not want to let a day go by wishing "if only" because

"If only...is a wish too late."

Family Moments 2015

Family is one of the most important things in my life, so I am taking the time to share a few photos that I took over the weekend. Enjoy!

My Dad loves his flowers, so I took a picture of them all blooming so vibrantly outside. 

My parents. They are really happy living in Tecumseh.
Although I wish my Dad's illness never occurred, it has brought my parents closer together
 in so many ways, not to mention the rest of our family.

What's that, only kids colour? Ha! Adult-colouring helps to promote relaxation and it stimulates the brain in a lot of positive ways.  My Dad was not keen on doing this at first, but it's growing on him. He did a really good job!

My dad is happy to be able to use his computer to keep up with what's going on in the world.
A big switch from the monster desk at the old house, but he really likes it.
We got my mom a matching desk too!

We had a great Sunday afternoon taking a walk. That is usually one of the "must-do" activities when I come over.
I also wanted to snap a "selfie" with my Dad.
This is our first one together. A bit awkward as I looked the wrong way, but I hope you like it. lol



Ed Arditti: Never Give Up (Family Motto)

The virus that attacked my dad's brain at the end of 2014 could have taken him away from us. Thankfully, he is still with us and progressing day-by-day.

Bill took this photo on Sunday. My dad's smile lights up the room (and his shirt lol). Oh and yep, he is 40 lbs lighter.

We love you Dad.


Ed Arditti: MIA

Hi everyone.

I apologize for not blogging very much, however, the start of 2015 has been a rollercoaster ride for our family. I wanted to write a blog, but I haven't had the time nor the energy to put insightful or thoughtful words together. So please just bear with me.

Over the holidays, my dad fell ill with a terrible Encephalitis virus that severely attacked his brain. He was in Hotel Dieu hospital since the first of January, and finally came home on the 13th.  I know this has been devastating to everyone who knows him, including us.

Unfortunately, his cognitive abilities are rather delayed right now. He is currently taking anti-viral medications to reduce the swelling in his brain, which comes with its own side effects, but this is our best line of defense. We have around the clock care from a wonderful organization here in the city of Windsor called CCAC, from nurses to PSW's, an occupational therapist etc...

I wish that I could give more details or at least say that my beloved father is going to fully recover, but we don't know. No one seems to know specifics, it is a situation of wait-and-see, plus keeping up with blood tests, doctor's appointments and of course, monitoring any changes.

As you can imagine, this has been a very difficult time for our family, both physically and emotionally. This was not something we had anticipated and it has thrown our lives for a loop.

We appreciate all the support, deeply and truly.

I took this photo last year when we spent a nice day at the park together.

I love my Dad so much.



Happy 33rd birthday!

Dressed up pretty for my birthday meal out with Bill and my family.

Happy birthday to me....33 years old! :)


Addiction: The Couponer's Bubble

Do you remember the old saying of “there are no free lunches in this world?” It holds some truth, but in the consumer world, it’s becoming easier to obtain items for free or ridiculously low costs. It’s no surprise now that some people will go to any length to try and outsmart the system.

Part 2 of my couponing series will take you into the world of coupon addiction. It is a dark place that can rob you of your life, just like any other compulsive behaviour such as smoking, drinking, drugs, and more. The clinical definition of addiction by the DSM-IV-TR (Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders) can be debated though and is often rejected by those who are suffering. Whether you meet one criteria or all of them, sometimes your conscience may be able to withstand the fraudulent behaviours because you truly believe that you’re saving money for yourself and your family. However, there is a very fine line between saving and scheming.

Every day, people scour the stores for the best deals and of course, those red-hot coupons. You’ll join up on sites that allow you to print out money-saving coupons on favourite products or even ones you’ve never tried before. Other times, you’ll be able to have certain websites mail you out coupons to your home address. Social media has also become another great avenue for obtaining coupons, discounts and freebies.  However, when does hunting for a bargain turn toxic?

About a week ago, I had a surprising letter from a woman who did not want to disclose her real name to me but was very adamant about sharing her story. So for the purpose of this blog, I will refer to her as “Natasha.”

This is a year for Natasha to mark on her calendar. She had the biggest birthday bash, as she celebrated her 37th recently with close friends and family. She was overjoyed with a simple dinner at one of her favourite restaurants in the city of Windsor, and for the fact that she had finally left her home for a calculated time of 2 hours and 15 minutes, after a number of years in isolation.




Natasha’s story began like many others. Being a stay-at-home mom of 3 had its rewards but Natasha often felt really bored with her life and began searching for new ways to break out of the mommy role. Her husband worked long hours and so any quality time would be sparse, except for the occasional weekends, when he would make it a habit to go out with his buddies and leave her alone with 3 attention-seeking children. Sometimes he’d come home, blitzed out of his mind, smelling like stale perfume and other times, he never came home at all. Frustrated, Natasha recalls one night where she put the children to bed and went to the living room and cried for what seemed like hours.

Trying to make sense of her situation, her eyes glazed over the computer screen that was in the corner of the room. Before she knew it, her tears had turned to laughter, as she entered the virtual world known as the Internet.  Being an amateur with computers, she successfully navigated her way and carefully typed in the search box of Google “bored mommies.” Thousands of search results came up and Natasha was overwhelmed, yet relieved that there were other people like her who were constantly stuck at home and unappreciated by their significant others. Clicking on each page, Natasha felt a sense of belonging and began to sign up to different forums.

Natasha recalls a renewed zest for life, an exhilaration that she hadn't felt in years. So every night, after the kids went to bed, Natasha would log onto the computer and seek out more groups to join. She would stay up practically all night long, chatting with others and eventually finding an extreme coupon group that would soon consume her life. Scrolling through a few sites that had products she liked, Natasha decided to sign up and see whether anything would actually arrive at her home. The excitement of receiving a confirmation e-mail was beginning to feel more fulfilling than sex.

Only a few months into joining and Natasha was hooked. Couponing was her escape from the mundane existence that she lived, day in and day out. Her doorbell would not stop ringing as delivery drivers would stop by and drop off, yet another parcel. She was amazed at how good she felt. She got tips and tricks on how to get more than one sent to her home and started to create multiple e-mail accounts. Eventually, she had 25 different accounts that she could log into.  Trips to the grocery store were unbelievable, as she would pay virtually nothing for her groceries. Any chance at saving money, she’d grab the whole wall of tear pads and stuff them into her purse so no one else could get the deals she was getting. She even started buying up items she wouldn’t even use, just because it was on sale at a good price. She did hand out some coupons to customers on occasion, but this was only to ease her mind of what she was doing. Natasha felt no shame in doing this, but looking back, she knew this was worse than stealing.

Unfortunately, it only got worse. Natasha started to neglect household duties and there were many times that her husband had to come home from work because she forgot to pick up their kids from school or extra-curricular activities.  The distance in Natasha’s marriage worsened and she began getting calls from the school about absenteeism. Not fazed by any of it, Natasha continued to be on the computer even more. Sitting and waiting for the next freebie, ignoring her baby’s cries and visiting the grocery store almost daily to stock up on items that she knew she had plenty of.  Some evenings, she would go and do something called “dumpster diving” to find coupons and other papers that she couldn’t get her hands on. After a while, she would cautiously wait until a neighbour put out the red or blue boxes, take them home, and rummage through. Sometimes Natasha would forget to give them back. She started to collect them and realized she could make some money selling the used recycled boxes.

To give you an idea of her stockpile, it consisted of: 300 packages of toilet paper, 150 cases of canned goods, 76 shampoos, 45 boxes of  pasta, 200 deodorants, 200 loafs of bread, 400 bottles of various over-the-counter prescription medications, 200 boxes of Kleenex, 120 boxes of cereal, and much more.  The family could have lived extremely well for the next few years without having to buy very much, but the rush was too thrilling to stop and so someone had to slam on the brakes.

The most embarrassing and pivotal moment for Natasha was when she stepped into the grocery store and was immediately escorted to the manager’s office.  To her surprise, the store had been watching her for months now. Her devious rearrangements of items so others could not get them, the loads of products she would place into her cart and pay nothing for because she had many free product coupons for, the excessive amount of tear pads she’d collect without leaving any for other consumers…all the evidence was there and Natasha was finally caught.  Thankfully the store manager was sympathetic and did not press charges. However, she was banned from the store.

She drove home from the horrible incident and in a sudden rage, she destroyed her stockpile. As canned goods smashed to the ground and shampoo bottles dripped out onto the marble-tiled floor, Natasha unplugged her computer and threw the monitor against the wall.

Couponing was Natasha’s saviour, or so she thought. What she didn’t bargain for was the devastating aftermath.  Her husband left and took their 3 kids. Natasha told me that the moment her husband demanded full custody, she couldn’t even muster the strength to fight for her children. She knew that she was an unfit mother and needed help.

Up until very recently, Natasha lived a life of total isolation. The outside world did not exist. She refers to herself at times as the “Couponer in a Bubble,” which makes total sense. With the help of on-going therapy and some extremely supportive friends and family, Natasha is slowly rebuilding her life. The guilt still consumes her but she was naïve thinking that she could get away with everything.  What she thought was a fun hobby turned into a nightmare she will never forget.

Natasha has deactivated all of her accounts now. Shopping for her is still a huge source of anxiety and so she only shops with a trusted family member or friend. Although she has setbacks, Natasha is proud to say that she no longer is part of any coupon group.

My closing thoughts: Addiction of any sort can be debilitating and so admitting you have a problem is really the first step in getting better. It’s not an easy road but in the end it is worth every penny. Couponing can be very harmless and a wonderful way to save money. It’s also great to try out new products and help others who may be struggling. However, people go way too far.

So the next time you go shopping and see a stash of coupons just waiting for you to grab, take a moment and realize what you’re doing because you never know what price you actually pay, until it’s too late.