Showing posts with label advocacy. Show all posts
Showing posts with label advocacy. Show all posts

Ontario Community Resource: 211 Day


As a continued community panel member with 211, I wanted to share some information about the service and how this crucial resource is so important to our communities especially when so many of us are dealing with challenging life circumstances! #211Day #HelpStartsHere

So what is 211?

211 connects people to over 60,000 government and community programs such as:

🧠 Mental health services, 🤝 Community programs, 🏠Housing🥫 Food banks and so much more!

👉211 is a free, confidential service available to all Ontarians. 

👉It is accessible 24/7 in more than 150 languages by phone, text, chat, and web.

If you or someone you know needs help, remember those 3 key numbers 2-1-1.


💜Find the help you need: 211 Website


Reflections of 2025

As the countdown begins, I made a little collage to reflect back on this year. Intentionally, I took flight more often from social media and begun to cultivate a new existence outside of screens.

It wasn't about the gigantic steps in 2025...it was teensy tiny ones with a lot of fumbling along the way.

The hats that I wore in work and play altered in unexpected ways, but I remained what many still call me ("a muse").

My little support nook was of course an extra heartbeat to keep momentum when life got really rough (thank you)and I hope our connections continue to grow in 2026.


Advocacy Through Lived Experiences: 211 Community Panel Member



I wanted to share some advocacy work that I've been involved with and continue to be part of moving forward in 2025.

I'm proud of my contributions as a 211 Ontario Community Panel member and you can read a quote from me on this blog!

Learn how 211 Ontario’s Community Panel is using lived experience to drive meaningful change.

https://211ontario.ca/from-lived-experience-to-lasting-impact-211-ontarios-community-panel



Crazy Little Things Called Love: Film Reviews






Hello readers! I've compiled another list of films that I've watched recently that I wanted to share. 



Ah yes, Cyrano de Bergerac, a timeless tale that was probably thrusted upon many of my readers, like myself during our high school English class days. Those 5 paragraph essays in full swing and then watching the black and white version from the 50’s on a projection screen for the next few classes. I remember seeing quite a few film adaptations too, the most fond one of Cyrano being played by the comedic genius himself, Steve Martin in the film titled, Roxanne.  

Rolling into 2021, still in the heart of the pandemic, a musical version came out of Cyrano. This time, instead of revolving around a facial feature (his prominent nose), this film directed by Joe Wright, re-imagines the epic character Cyrano dealing with dwarfism, played by the impressive Peter Dinklage, who falls madly in love with Roxanne, played by Haley Bennett

Knowing how devastating unrequited love can be, we ache for Cyrano, probably far more than ever before because of Dinklage’s performance. Do we care about his size? No. Do we care about his heart? Oh yes we do! There is a longing for human connection, yet the deep self-loathing of the harsh realities of the world at the same time, which can be extremely relatable.  The costume designs were gorgeous, not to mention many of the picturesque scenes throughout. 

The main highlight of the film is of course the soundtrack. I don’t think there could be enough tears shed after listening to Overcome for the first time, followed by Wherever I Fall.   

You’re invested in the story and the characters, even though there is no swaying away from the ultimate fate of what love can do to us. Unrequited love can be the most torturous.  Roxanne and Cyrano together on-screen though are quite magical as you’re catapulted into their hearts indefinitely as the credits roll.  



The End of Us is a quirky indie-style comedy film by Steven Kanter and Henry Loevner that I think is quite relatable for many going through the pandemic and have questioned their partnerships! Dealing with each other’s “ism’s” might not seem so bad when you’re able to get out into the world, but as the world shuts down, it’s a reminder of a relationship going to hell in a handbasket for the characters, Nick played by Ben Coleman and Leah played by Ali Vingiano

Leah is an interesting character. She reminded me a bit of Sarah Silverman with her sarcastic wit. So she’s adulting, has a stressful job, takes care of all the finances and makes sure Nick moisturizes his awfully dry skin. Nick on the other-hand is slacking in all departments, unmotivated and still working on a book that never seems to go anywhere, but reaping all the benefits of the relationship, or is he? 

Making the tough decision to end a long-term relationship is never easy but we can see that the passive-aggressiveness and toxic behaviours are a cry for help.  Leah gets up the courage to tell Nick to leave when the pandemic rears its ugly head and mask-wearing begins, as well as the spiral of job losses, isolation and more.  

We can see how each of these characters deal with change and uncertainties of life. I liked the style and pace of the movie. There is no shortage of emotions as both of them try to navigate how to live with someone who you are not in love with anymore. They still desperately hold onto memories that feel so long gone, along with the gratuitous sex mistakes that shouldn’t have happened, but they do because it feels almost like the norm in movies.

Overall, the movie was enjoyable, it had a lot of introspective moments, humour, quite a bit of vulgarity (warning if that’s not your thing) and without spoiling the ending, you want the best for both Nick and Leah, you really want them to succeed in their dreams, whether they are together or apart.

  


Welcome to Woop Woop is From the makers of Priscilla Queen of the Desert...” so how could I NOT want to see what this movie had to offer? Priscilla is one of my favourite movies of all time for its beauty, elaborate costumes, humour, bravery and homage to Abba, of course.

Directed by Stephan Elliott, this Australian tale is pretty basic really and then starts going off the rails. Teddy played by Johnathon Schaech, is a New York bird smuggler and after a deal goes wrong, he takes off to Australia to replace a bunch of birds that escaped. Along the way, he ends up rendezvousing with a free-spirited woman named Angie, played by Susie Porter

After being knocked out by Angie, Teddy finds himself married,  and stranded as a prisoner in Woop Woop, a forgotten place where they dine on canned pineapple, boat loads of tobacco and dog food (made from road-killed kangaroos). The only entertainment available to the residents is old Rodgers & Hammerstein films and soundtracks. Of course, you can't get married without meeting the whole Aussie family, including the alpha-male dictator father Daddy-O, played by Rod Taylor

Make sure to watch out for one character, the oddball Blind Wally, played by Barry Humphries, who you might also recall as the colourful and spunky Dame Edna!

I will say that this movie will definitely leave a lasting impression, what kind of impression is very subjective. You’ll be randomly quoting specific movie lines spontaneously though (ones that are just a bit too vulgar to mention here) and maybe even re-thinking life choices. 

Despite the craziness, offensiveness that some may feel watching this one, grotesque animal scenes (NO animals were actually hurt according to the disclaimer put out!) there is a beauty towards the end that you don’t see coming. It throws you for a loop and is a bit overwhelmed with emotion, but it works. You’ll Never Walk Alone serenades us in a tearful scene, followed by the oddly amazing Junior Vasquez remix of Climb Every Mountain, from none other, The Sound of Music. 

Although deemed as one of the worst Australian films, it’s raging on as a cult classic and rightfully so. 


 

This is actually a two-part review, as these films intertwine with each other. 

Before you watch BlackFish, watch Free Willy, or re-watch it if you remember the film from the 90’s. The whale, Keiko was used in the movie and became the poster-whale for a desperate plea to end orcas in captivity.  

Although meant to be a light family movie with a feel-good vibe of reckless boy meets whale, whale saves kid (or kid saves whale too?) and ultimately defeats the evil amusement park owners,  a darker and sinister story actually is underneath. The connection is beautiful in the movie in the innocence of a child, but still a far cry from what reality looks like for many of these intelligent creatures.  

A huge highlight comes from its soundtrack. After seeing this movie in the theatre back in the 90’s, I rushed out to get the cassette tape and played “Will You Be There?" by Michael Jackson continuously.  I felt a spiritual connection to the song without religious context. 

20+ years later, after hearing it again, the song resonates with me completely different due to seeing the next film I will talk about entitled BlackFish.


Causing a lot of waves, the documentary BlackFish came out in 2013.  A very compelling documentary about marine mammal captivity, highlighting Tilikum, an orca that was held by SeaWorld and the devastating consequences that unfolded.

There is a lot of controversy in this film but there is no doubt that the motivating factor was the all-mighty dollar, not the well-being of the orcas at all. The trainers I felt had really good intentions yet were greatly misled in many ways by being employed at SeaWorld. 

Filled with so many ethical dilemmas to ponder, it was still quite heart-breaking to see what kind of treatment orcas did receive and how their psychological health, not to mention physical health, greatly deteriorated.

SeaWorld has claimed to have changed their focus and use the orcas for "educational" purposes instead of entertainment and no longer have a breeding program. They have a new show called the Orca Encounter, which is currently $100/ticket.  Still, you surely won't be seeing me there anytime soon. 

It all feels like smoke and mirrors to the real issues surrounding orcas that are still to this day not being addressed properly.  It is understood that sometimes sending them back into the wild is not always an option, which makes things even more complicated, but they deserve a better life than being spectacles at money-hungry theme parks. These beautiful creatures were never meant to be caged, only to be free.



💜Have you seen any of these films?  What were your thoughts? Drop me a note in the comments, or send me an email using my webform on the side and also let me know what you've been watching!


Golden Girls Moment

It sums up exactly my feelings based on what I have been going through in my own medical situation.

Leave it to the Golden Girls to always have an episode that I can relate to in some way.

If this is not a wake-up call for healthcare professionals to take that extra time and deal with a patient properly (or if you can't, be honest enough to say so!) I don't know what is. For those who are actually compassionate to begin with, feel blessed that you are positively contributing to the mental wellbeing of anyone who is in need of care.

You dismissed me

Patient Advocacy: My Health Matters Too

I have come to the realization that bad things do happen to good people as much as on the contrary, good things happen to those who have caused us harm.

I cannot even really begin to explain my feelings of how devastated it is to be cast away by the people who you put your faith in, especially when it comes to your health. When you are sick or supposedly diagnosed with an illness, you never really expect them to start playing Russian roulette with your life.

Due to incompetence and attitude of "it's not my problem" recent events escalated to the breaking point. My voice needed to be heard and in my heart, I know that if my father was not a lawyer and did not put his law initials beside the very first complaint letter, chances are we would be stored away in a pile that would be sorted at random on a secretary's desk.

Regardless of the outcome now, I really wanted to share with the Chief of Staff of the hospital what I have been going through for the last year and to ask himself the question of what lengths he would go to if this was happening to his child. That point in itself hit home and I could see some empathy. The 6 page letter including documentation of all the events leading up to the meeting showed that something has to be done so other people might not suffer as terribly as I have, physically and especially mentally. I have been diagnosed with PTSD, something I never thought I would be dealing with on top of everything else, but it is now my reality as I re-live these experiences every day. 

The actual details of what went on and whether I have been misdiagnosed was not the main reason for the meeting, and why I am not posting the entire 6 pages.

It's this part below of the letter which is most important to me and so I wanted to share it with everyone:

A doctor of any sort, including a specialist needs to be trained on how to communicate effectively with their patients. If someone is an expert in his/her field but cannot effectively deal properly with a patient, they are doing others more harm than they actually realize and even causing further damage to their own reputation.

I would not want anyone to go through what I have and so I am advocating for major change to happen with all doctors, regardless of their expertise or ranking in the hospital system. I understand how busy everyone is, and the lack of funding and all the other obstacles. However, after going through this ordeal, the time it would take to do some mandatory compassionate training a couple times a year would make a world of difference. Doctors need to be put in the patient's shoes to have a better understanding on how to talk to them. Meetings like this would not have to take place which waste valuable energy and time of all parties involved. More effort and support can be spent on the most important part of what doctors and hospitals should be caring about; the patient's physical and equally important, their emotional wellbeing.

*****

I'd like to say that I have a new specialist now who so far has demonstrated to myself and my family care and compassion, something that I strongly believe that a mandate should always hold true to with no exceptions.

Although right now in my life, I am still going through a lot of unknowns, I have some hope and comforted by the fact that I am at least being treated with R-E-S-P-E-C-T.

Thanks for reading.